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Foster Families

A Foster Parent Wish List for Herself and Her Kids

Foster Parent

We would like to welcome Kelley Rose Waller to the team of Hope 4 Hurting Kids. A published author and devoted Foster Parent, Kelley will be sharing her experiences and insights in the areas of foster families, grief, parenting and other issues we deal with here on Hope 4 Hurting Kids. Her writing is direct and inviting, and we are certain that you will both enjoy her writing and learn from her experiences. We are excited to have her as part of the team!

I don’t know where the line to qualify as a “veteran foster parent” is, but I’m sure I’m not there.  Still, I’ve read a bunch of these kinds of lists written by foster parent bloggers, so I’m adding my thought-socks to the laundry pile.

Here’s what foster momma would like from you…

1. Listen when she talks, but don’t give her suggestions unless you understand the situation. “Have you tried using apricots to help him poo?” is a great any-mom tip. “Did you tell the judge that he’s constipated?” is probably the place where you’ve enter an area you know nothing about.  So, just listen if she complain and tell her you’re praying for God to be glorified in the situation.

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March 3, 2017by Kelley Rose Waller
Divorce and Family Disruption

Dinosaurs Divorce – A Guide For Changing Families by Laurene Kransy Brown and Marc Brown (A Review)

Dinosaurs Divorce

At Hope 4 Hurting Kids, we are committed to getting good resources into the hands of those who work with children of divorce. Many times, that means creating resources for those who work with children of divorce, other times that means bringing pre-existing resources to your attention. The book Dinosaurs Divorce – A Guide For Changing Families by Laurene Kransy Brown and Marc Brown is one such resource intended for children whose parents have gone, or are going, through a divorce.

With over one million children each year suffering through the divorce of their parents, it is encouraging to find resources created specifically for kids. Designed for kids Dinosaurs Divorce is brilliantly illustrated to help kids understand what divorce is and the many changes and emotions that come along with divorce, dating, remarriage and step families.

As the book jacket describes,

If dinosaurs got married, no doubt they, like many families today, had to cope with divorce, too. What they needed was Dinosaurs Divorce. This timely, reassuring picture book is the perfect resource to help young children and their families deal with the confusion, misconceptions and anxieties apt to arise when divorce occurs.

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March 2, 2017by Wayne Stocks
Modern Families

Spring Break and Visitation – How Does That Work for Children of Divorce?

Spring Break

In my area of the country, it is officially spring break time. By that, I mean all the college kids are coming to our area to enjoy the beaches and … well you know the rest … to party. In the news media when you hear about spring break, they are usually referring to college kids getting away or families taking a week off to enjoy some family time and a vacation. What about the kids of divorce though? What does spring break mean for them? When do they get to party and have a good time?

Sometimes spring break can mean heartache.

My mom is supposed to have me for spring break, but she said I couldn’t come to her house because she is taking a vacation with her boyfriend and his kids.

Sometimes it can mean confusion. Continue reading

March 1, 2017by Linda Ranson Jacobs
Understanding Emotions

The Feelings Beach Ball

Feelings Beach Ball

The Feelings Beach Ball is an easy, fun and effective way to help kids identify different emotions and talk about when they have experienced those emotions in their life. They’re simple to make too, you only need a simple Beach Ball (you can usually get one for around $1.00 after the summer is over) and a black permanent marker.

Here’s how it works:

  1. Select an emotion for each color on the ball.
  2. With a permanent marker, draw a face which represents each emotion.
  3. With a group of kids, or between you and the child you are working with if one-on-one, pass the beach ball around.
  4. When the child catches the ball, have them identify the emotion on the color under their right hand (or left if you’d prefer). The child can answer whatever emotion is elicited by the face you’ve drawn on the ball. It might not always match what you had envisioned, but if they’re way off base you might want to gently assist in identifying the emotion.
  5. For an added twist, have the child share a time in their life they felt that emotion, or might feel that emotion.
  6. You can also discuss ways of dealing with any negative emotions.
  7. When the child is done, have him/her pass it to another child or back to you and play again.

Here are some pictures of our Feelings Beach Ball from different angles:

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February 28, 2017by Wayne Stocks
Divorce and Family Disruption

The Bible and Children of Divorce

BIble and Children of Divorce

When it comes to the issue of the children of divorce, the Bible is silent. Trust me! I looked. The question then becomes, why? Of course, there any number of things not specifically addressed in the Bible, and the failure to specifically mention a certain subject does not, of course, mean one thing or another. Yet, the question remains, why doesn’t the Bible say anything specific about children of divorce? As those who are committed to ministering to these kids, that question is of the utmost importance.

Here is how I would respond to that question. As I’ve already stated, the lack of specific mention should not be interpreted as any sort of indication that God does not care about these kids. The remainder of scripture would certainly refute that notion. The Bible, for example, never mentions the word Trinity, but that does not make the fact of the Trinity any less true. We can see the trust of the trinity in other verses of scripture without God specifically including the word. Likewise, when we turn to the totality of scripture, we can see God’s heart for suffering and lonely children despite the fact that the phrase “children of divorce” cannot be found in the Bible.

Take, for example, the words of Malachi:

But you say, “Why does he not?” Because the LORD was witness between you and the wife of your youth, to whom you have been faithless, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant. Did he not make them one, with a portion of the Spirit in their union? And what was the one God seeking? Godly offspring. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and let none of you be faithless to the wife of your youth. [Malachi 2:14-15 ESV]

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February 27, 2017by Wayne Stocks
Modern Families

What About My Family?

Family

This article, which was first published in the March/April 2012 issue of K! Magazine addresses the issue of how the church should address children of divorce and children from single-parent families in the context of family ministry.  

Family ministry is all the buzz in the world of children’s ministry these days. It seems as though the whole children’s ministry world is painting the world orange! Deuteronomy 6 has become the “go to” verse in children’s ministry, and for good reason. There is much to be learned there. God clearly calls the family to be the primary vessel for imparting and teaching spiritual truth to our kids.

Like many things, though, it’s easy to take a good thing too far. In the lingo of Orange where red is the family and yellow is the church, there is a temptation to lean too far towards the red side (family) in order to compensate for years of yellow driven ministry. When churches do this, they run the risk of losing an ever growing segment of our population and a dwindling portion of our churches – children from divorced homes and single parent families. When our focus is simply on “helping parents to disciple their kids,” what are we saying to kids whose parents have either abandoned them or are in no emotional or spiritual state to disciple them? In those situations, we leave these kids asking and wondering:

WHAT ABOUT MY FAMILY?

The Biblical Mandate

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February 24, 2017by Wayne Stocks
Inspiration

Courageous, The Movie (A Review)

Courageous

More than just a movie, this film is a call to action for men in our society. Every father, every single man and every boy ought to watch this movie! But, this movie isn’t just for dads and prospective dads. Anyone who works with kids should seek out this movie as it is a gripping portrayal of the impact of fatherlessness on the kids we deal with week in and week out. Whether you work with children of divorce, in children’s ministry at your church, at a school or even just spend time with a friend’s kids, this movie will encourage you to be courageous in helping kids and setting a being a good role model for them.

The focus of the movie is on dads and the role they need to play in the lives of their children, but there is an important subcontext throughout the movie and that has to do with filling the gap of fatherlessness for kids whose fathers are not present or involved in their lives. Whether it is children born to single mothers, children whose fathers have deserted them following a divorce or children whose fathers have passed away, we all have a responsibility to step up and be the hands and feet of Jesus to these fatherless kids. Rather than shying away from the responsibility of caring for these kids, the church in general, and men in particular, must stand up and take the responsibility.

The Plot

This movie is really well done with twists and turns that you won’t expect. Accordingly, I want to do this review without giving away too much of the movie and thereby spoiling it for those who have not yet had a chance to see it. So, rather than summarize the entire movie myself, and potentially give away some of the plot, here is a synopsis of the movie from the Courageous website: Continue reading

February 23, 2017by Wayne Stocks
Divorce and Family Disruption

Preventing A Life Frittered Away

Life Frittered Away

“A life frittered away disgusts GOD; he loves those who run straight for the finish line” (Proverbs 15:9 MSG).

In our world today we have many children whose parents have split or separated that will drift into a life frittered away. To “fritter away your life” means to waste a life over a period of time on things that are not worthwhile. Is there anything you can do to help these children and give them a chance to get a fresh start toward that finish line?

Yes, there is! You can start thinking like God does about these children. God values children, all children. Many times in our churches we forget to value the child of divorce/cohabitation. We are busy with so many responsibilities that these children seem to get lost. It might be because this child only shows up occasionally in your church.

As children’s workers, it’s important to pray and consider ways you or someone in your church can help these children get a start toward that finish line. You may never know what happens to that child in his or her future life, but if you can just help them now, you will be giving them a chance to keep from frittering their lives away.

Sometimes that means understanding the single parent a little better. We forget that many single parents are struggling as much as their children. Following is an excerpt from an email I received. Hopefully this message will encourage you to reach out. Continue reading

February 22, 2017by Linda Ranson Jacobs
Grief

The Grief Self-Exploration House

Grief Self-Exploration House

The Grief Self-Exploration House is a great means for helping kids to understand their grief and what’s really important. Remember, when you’re helping a child to grieve, your role is to walk alongside them and help to facilitate the process of them working through their own grief, not to do their work for them. We originally found this awesome idea at The Grief Center. Here is how it works:

  1. On a sheet of paper, have the child draw a picture of a house with the following specifications. Make sure they leave plenty of room in each section and object for writing or drawing. (You might want to use a large piece of paper.):
    • The house should have three stories and a roof.
    • The house should have a door on the first floor.
    • The roof of the house should include both a chimney and a flag.
  2. If you’d rather not draw the picture, we’ve created a pdf file with a template (with and without instructions) at this link.
  3. Have the child fill out each section of the house with words or drawings (depending on their age) as indicated below.
  4. If the child wants to talk about what they’re writing or drawing, engage in those conversations but try not to force them to talk about anything they don’t want to.

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February 21, 2017by Wayne Stocks
Divorce and Family Disruption

How Divorce Can Shatter a Child’s Faith

faith

A few years ago, I had the opportunity to teach first through fifth graders at church about the term faith. The jumping off point of our discussion was the story of Jesus and the Centurion’s servant as relayed in Matthew 8:5-13. In that story, Jesus agreed to heal the Centurion’s servant after being amazed by his faith. Matthew tells us:

When Jesus heard this, he was amazed and said to those following him, Truly I tell you, I have not found anyone in Israel with such great faith. [Matthew 8:10]

After discussing the story, the lesson covered five questions to help lay a foundation for faith in Jesus Christ. The five questions included:

  1. Who do we put our faith in?
  2. What is faith?
  3. Why do we need faith?
  4. Where does faith come from?
  5. What do we do with faith?

The more I studied for this lesson and reviewed scriptures related to each point, the more I began to understand why the divorce of a child’s parents can, and oftentimes does, shatter their faith in God. More than just inconveniencing a child, or making them mad or upset, divorce cuts through them at a very deep theological level leaving them questioning everything they have ever believed in and/or preventing them from trusting in Jesus Christ in the future. Continue reading

February 20, 2017by Wayne Stocks
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