H4HK FAQs: What Is Custody And Visitation?

Custody And Visitation

H4HK FAQs are designed to answer questions kids and teens ask when facing difficult situations and circumstances in their lives.

When your parents were married, they likely worked together to make decisions regarding you, and you probably all lived in the same house.  When parents’ get divorced, someone has to decide who will make decisions for the kids and where the kids will live.  Sometimes both parents agree on those decisions and other times, when parents can’t agree, a judge will make that decision.  That is where custody comes in.

There are two general types of custody: legal custody (which refers to who gets to make major decisions for the kids including decisions related to education, healthcare, religion, etc.) and physical custody (which refers to where the children will spend their time).


There are two types of legal custody.

Joint Legal Custody

Joint Legal Custody means that both parents must still work together after the divorce to make major decisions related to their kids. Parents can share joint legal custody even if they do not share physical custody.

Sole Legal Custody

Sole legal custody means that only one parent has the legal right and authority to make major decisions on behalf the child.


There are three basic types of physical custody.

Joint Physical Custody

This is a custody arrangement where children spend some time living with each parent.  It may be that children spend part of each week with each parent, part of each month or part of each year depending on the circumstances.  Generally the amount of time spent with each parent is roughly equal.  This form of custody is sometimes called “shared custody,” “dual residence,” or “shared parenting.”

Sole Physical Custody

In this custody arrangement, children live with only one parent.  In the case of sole physical custody, the non-custodial parent (the one the children do not live with) is given visitation rights (see below).

Bird’s Nest Custody

This type of physical custody is less common than the others.  Under this arrangement, the children stay in the same house all the time and parents alternate in and out of the house as the custody agreement dictates.  For example, the children would live in the same house all week while Mom stays in that house from Sunday through Wednesday and Dad moves in from Thursday through Saturday.


Visitation rights are granted to non-custodial parents in the case of sole physical custody to provide for time with the children.

Unsupervised Visitation

This is the most common type of visitation awarded.  In unsupervised visitation, the children may go to the parent’s house (and perhaps even sleepover).  Parents are generally allowed to take their kids wherever they would like under this type of arrangement.

Supervised Visitation

Under some circumstances, the judge might ordered supervised visitation.  This means that, while the non-custodial parent is spending time with the children, another adult must be present for the entire visit.  Sometimes that person may be agreed on by the parents.  Other times, a court appointed supervisor may be used.

Virtual Visitation

A relatively new form of visitation, virtual visitation takes place over the internet or computer and may include video chatting, messaging and e-mail.

Find answers to other frequently asked questions on our H4HK FAQs Page. For more resources and information on divorce, family disruption and modern families please visit our Hope 4 Hurting Kids Divorce and Modern Family Help Center.

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Written by Wayne Stocks
Wayne is the founder and executive director of Hope 4 Hurting Kids. He is a happily married father of four kids with a passion for helping young people who are going through rough times. In addition to Hope 4 Hurting Kids, Wayne previously started I Am A Child of Divorce and Divorce Ministry 4 Kids to help kids who are dealing with the disruption of their parents' relationship. These are now part of Hope 4 Hurting Kids. Wayne speaks frequently at conferences and churches on issues related to helping kids learn to deal with difficult emotions and life in modern families. Wayne lives with his wife, three youngest kids, three dogs and an insane collection of his kids' other pets outside of Columbus, Ohio. In addition to his work with Hope 4 Hurting Kids, Wayne is a partner in a local consulting firm, an avid reader, coaches his son's soccer team and is a proud supporter of Leicester City Football Club (and yes, for those in know, his affinity for the club does predate the 2016 championship). You can reach Wayne at wayne@hope4hurtingkids.com.