What if a divorced single parent family suddenly showed up at your church and unknown to you they were involved in a reality show?

What if you found out, would you handle things any differently than when you didn’t know? Stop and think about that for a few minutes.

What attitude would you betray when you didn’t know? Most of you are probably saying, “It doesn’t make any difference as I love all children. I would welcome them like other children.” Really?  Seriously?  Because I’ve been at various children’s ministers’ conferences, and if I could see your face and expression right now, they would tell the real story – just as they do when I approach you at conferences about working with the child of divorce.

These are some of the comments I get.

• We don’t have any children in our community from divorced families.
• We aren’t allowed to say the word “divorce” in our church. I really do want to work with them but my hands are tied.
• Oh! Those kids! They are too out of control for me. No thank you!
• We tried but divorce kids don’t show up consistently, and their parent never knows what’s going on.

Here’s how I’d like to address some of these comments. Continue reading