The past two weeks we have examined some of the short-term and long-term legacies of divorce on children. In this article we will look at ways you can help children in your church lessen the impact of some of these issues.
Many children’s leaders have shared that they tend to hold back or shy away from children of divorce simply because they are afraid of making things worse for the child. Next time you face such fears, think to yourself,
How much worse can anything be than to watch the two people in the world you love the most split up and live in two separate households?
The worst thing you can do is to do nothing at all. Don’t let your fears keep you from ministering to these kids.
Pray for the Child of Divorce
At the top of the list of things you can do to help children of divorce has to be prayer. God’s guidance is paramount if you want to positively impact these children. Next, don’t be afraid to jump right in there and help these children. Make sure you check out the recent series here on Hope 4 Hurting Kids which included 100 Ways to Pray for Children of Divorce.
Search for Ways to Help
Take a few minutes to watch and study these children in your church. Watch the interactions between the child and the parent. Be careful not to be judgmental, but look for ways you can intervene to make things better between the parent and child. Do you realize that many single parents are barely holding it together and they feel uncomfortable at church?
I observed a scene in our church recently between an eleven year old and her mom. I saw the mom’s shoulders sag and watched as she sighed heavily. I stepped in between the two and said,
I’m so happy you are both here today. What an honor to be able to give you guys a hug.
As I squeezed both of their shoulders in a little hug, the daughter smiled and took off for class. As the mom thanked me I said,
You know I’m only a phone call or email away if you just need to talk to someone.