Part of the issue with advocating for the children of divorce in this country is that divorce is largely viewed from the wrong perspective. As adults, we have a tendency to view the act of divorce from the perspective of the parents. To truly effectuate change in the way the children of divorce are ministered too, we need to begin to look at divorce through their eyes.
Allow me to explain. When parents get divorced, they tend to see the event from their own perspective. From their point of view, the divorce may be welcome relief or even a tragic occurrence, but eventually the parents “get over it” and move on with their lives. For children, divorce is not merely an event that happens in their childhood, but a trigger that changes the course of their entire lives.
In the book Between Two Worlds, Elizabeth Marquardt writes:
For too long, the debate about divorce in this country has been dominated by the adult perspective on divorce, with some adults charging that divorce is unjustifiably rampant and others retorting that divorce is a right that no one can question.