Every child has dreams and when parents divorce or break up, silence from the adults in their lives can tend to destroy the dreams in a normal child centered environment. All children are self-centered. That’s how God made us – to depend on our parents and other adults.
However, when there is a crisis such as a divorce, kids need people to talk to them and explain what is happening and what’s going to happen. Children don’t need silence from the very people they depend upon to help them through the rough patches of life.
Many divorcing parents don’t know what to say to their child so they don’t say much. Some will sit the kids down and tell them they are getting a divorce but they stop short of explaining exactly what that means.
- Does it mean one parent is moving out?
- Does it mean you’ll never get to see the other parent?
- Does it mean the parent no longer loves you? The child thinks if the parents fell out of love with each other than they very well could fall out of love with the child too.
- Who is going to take care of me as in love me, feed me, keep me safe and put me to bed at night?