Love Letter to a Child of Divorce from the Father

Love letter

My Dear Child,

It’s me – your Heavenly Father. I just want you to know I know what you are going through. I collect all of your tears in a bottle, and I understand. I have felt the pain of rejection. I have suffered through the loss of my family. I have had those closest to me betray me, and I know what it is like to wish things could be different but to know that they never can be.

I know that, at times, you feel like you are all alone – like no one else in the world could ever understand what you are going through at this very moment. I know that the people closest to you have disappointed you and left you feeling empty and forlorn. I know that sometimes you see your self as broken and less than lovely.

Today, I want to remind you who you are to me. You are my masterpiece. I created you before the beginning of the world to accomplish great things for me. I put you together in your mother’s womb before your earthly parents even knew you existed, and I predestined your days on earth. You were created in my image, and I know every hair on your head. I know your thoughts. I know your feelings. I know your fears, and I know your dreams. There is nowhere you can go that I am not there. I will never leave you. I will always be there for you.

I gave up everything I had and came to live among my creation 2,000 years ago because I love you. I lived a perfect life in obedience to God because I love you. I died on the cross as an innocent man to pay the penalty you deserve because I love you, and I rose on the third day because I love you.

You see. I created you to be in a relationship with me – an everlasting never-ending relationship, and I made a way for that to happen despite the fact that people rebelled against me. My love does not decrease with time – I have always loved you as much as I do today, and I always will. My love does not depend on how you act – far from it. Your deeds, and the deeds of everyone you know, deserve judgment, yet I love you enough to make another way. It is a way where I paid the full price for your sins so that we can be together. That’s how much I love you.

When you are down, I will lift you up on wings like eagles. When you are angry, I will fill your heart with my joy. When you are hurt, I am the great physician who can heal you. I will stand up for you when everyone else in your life seems to abandon you. I invite you to become a part of my family – an adopted child. In your world people will disappoint you and let you down, but I never will.

When parents divorce, I know that it sometimes causes people to question the very reason for their existence. It is not something that you wanted or ever would have asked for – who would? Divorce was never part of my plan for the world I created. I hate divorce because I know how it impacts everyone involved – including you. But, your parents’ divorce does not make you any less of a child of mine. It does not change how I see you or how much I love you.

I am here for you anytime day or night. You need only to talk to me and call on my name, and you can rest assured that I will answer your prayers. It might not always be the answer you want, but I will answer them in the way that I know is best for you.

In these troubling times, lean on me – I am a rock that never shifts. In these times of change, rely on me – I am the same yesterday, today and forever. In these times of heartache, put your trust in me – I made your heart and I know how to make it new again. You are all together wonderful because I have made you.

Love always,

Your Heavenly Father

For more resources and information on divorce, family disruption and modern families please visit our Hope 4 Hurting Kids Divorce and Modern Family Help Center.

This article is updated and adapted from an article originally published on Divorce Ministry 4 Kids on April 09, 2012.

Written by Wayne Stocks
Wayne is the founder and executive director of Hope 4 Hurting Kids. He is a happily married father of four kids with a passion for helping young people who are going through rough times. In addition to Hope 4 Hurting Kids, Wayne started I Am A Child of Divorce to help kids who are dealing with the disruption of their parents' relationship. You can reach Wayne at wayne@hope4hurtingkids.com.