H4HK FAQs are designed to answer questions kids and teens ask when facing difficult situations and circumstances in their lives.
If you ever wonder if it’s ok to love both of your parents after a divorce or separation, the answer to this question is simple:
You absolutely have the right to love both of your parents no matter what happened in their relationship with one another.
Sometimes the fact that you love one parent might make things uncomfortable for the other parent, and other times you might feel like the fact that you love your Dad makes your Mom mad or vice-versa. Unfortunately, you might be right. Especially when parents have gotten a divorce, one or both parents may harbor resentment and anger towards the other parent. They might even try to influence you to feel the same way they do about your other parent. What they are doing isn’t fair to you, but it is likely the result of the frustration and stress that they are feeling. Unfortunately, parents are human beings too, and even parents make mistakes.
One fundamental right that every child from a divorced or separated home should have is the freedom to love both parents. If you are in a situation where one parent is making that hard or uncomfortable, there are some things you can do to try to make the situation better: